The Wait Book Notes

I instantly jumped on the bandwagon like everybody else and purchased my copy of this book, “The Wait”, cause lets face it, we love Meagan Good and Devon Franklin as an celebrity couple.  This book, was also our book club selection for the month of April to discuss.  Reading this book was like my personal manual on being celibate (see my previous guide of how that all came about).  Not to mention, it is currently my life story of getting to know someone on a deeper level – without sex even being an option.

I won’t give you the typical book review cause I want you to READ the book but here are some key points I got out of the book.  Feel free to jot these down in your notebooks or journal just as I did:

  • “The Wait” is to delay the temptation for instant gratification in relationships in order to get what you really want in life and become the person you truly want to be.
  • God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from sin. (1 Thessalonians 4:3)
  • Sex is an act of trust.
  • Though you might not see it, God has His hand on your life during this time, rearranging the scenery in order to set you up for good things to come.
  • Celibacy is about the mind as much as it is about the body.
  • Being celibate isn’t just about pushing down the normal need to engage in intercourse.  It’s about owning how you feel, even when those horny feelings are coming on.  It’s choosing to discipline the mind and think of the benefit you seek, something that is greater than the desire to give in.
  • Waiting for sex isn’t easy but no important thing is ever easy.
  • Abstinence: simply refraining from sex; it’s the absence of something with no greater meaning behind it.
  • Celibacy: is refraining from sex because of a vow or faith.
  • Sometimes, you can’t find what you desire most.  Sometimes, it has to find you.
  • “The Wait” helps put reason and discernment back in charge.
  • “Happiness is pleasure without regret” – Leo Tolstoy
  • Home is about the person more than the place.
  • Our desires are powerful drivers of our decision-making process, which helps or hinders us from getting what we want most.
  • Those who are in the realm of the flesh cannot please God (Romans 8:8)
  • God can and will bring like-minded people together.
  • Like attracts like.
  • The way God brings you a person can be as important as the person.
  • Waiting helps you choose people because you like them and feel a connection with them.
  • Waiting gives you better knowledge of your partner.
  • God is at the heart of the wait but His role isn’t always clear.
  • It takes 66 days to create a new habit.
  • “Obedience brings peace in decision making” – James E. Faust
  • Sometimes wisdom means knowing when you’re not strong, so that you don’t have to be strong.
  • You have to accept that temptation is coming for you.
  • No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.  And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.  But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it (1 Corinthians 10:13).
  • Temptation will fit anywhere in your life that you make room for it.
  • The most powerful tool for staying disciplined and keeping your commitment is your faith in and love of God.
  • Your spirit should be telling your body what to do, not the other way around.
  • You’re going to have to start being way more selective than you are right now.
  • Your husband is your partner in purpose.
  • If a man does come into your life, he ought to inspire you to achieve even greater fulfillment.
  • God, not man, completes you.
  • Celibacy is control.
  • A man leaving over sex is a blessing, because it tells you that he wasn’t your husband.
  • Who is your husband? That man whose maturity, depth, and patience equal your own, is your husband.
  • Who you think you should end up with is rarely who you end up with.
  • Waiting is an act of power.
  • Fear is failure of faith.
  • Unconditional love means accepting someone for who they are now, not who you hope they will be one day.
  • Ask yourself “Why?” about everything.

Lastly, in the book, it stated that there are 4 stages of celibacy:

  1. Celibacy while you’re dating around.
  2. Celibacy while dating exclusively.
  3. Celibacy in a committed relationship.
  4. In a committed relationship, having sex and then you stop to become celibate.


Look at these key points, go purchase the book and gather your own thoughts.  If you’ve read this book, share your thoughts in the comments.


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